People have different perspectives when it comes to beauty and attractiveness. It is really true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and being attractive comes from within. When I was younger, I was all about the rough tough kind of guys (maybe because it was a trend, then?) but as I learned that those “tough” ones are really the “insecure” ones… I changed my gear. I told myself, I just want someone who can be himself around me.

However, there are still things that do stand out; these are the traits that a person has (or could have) to make himself look ( + feel) attractive:

1. Intelligence: Not like a walking calculator or a walking dictionary type-of-person, but someone who talks about sensible things. Something productive. Someone who shows well-rounded interests with the things around him. A balance of being book-smart and street-smart.

2. Self-Confidence: What’s the use of brains if you don’t know how to socialize? What empowers men and women is their way of perceiving themselves. If you feel beautiful, then you WILL be beautiful. If you feel ugly, then it will show. BIG TIME. So, be capable of controlling your own outcome - - - start with yourself.

3. Sense of Humor: Usually, when you’re confident, you become comfortable expressing yourself to other people. I believe that everyone has an inner comedian in them. Just be yourself, don’t force the humor, let it flow. A person who loves to laugh will bring out the positivity out of another person.

4.Cultured:  In contemporary America, it seems like the culture has transformed into something else. All the ethnic groups are now identified and stereotyped BY the American popular culture. In my opinion, it is important for second generation immigrants to retain their culture WHILE assimilating with the American culture. People who can mesh both cultures without conflicts are strong in mind because finding your place in the society can be really hard sometimes, especially if you belong to a non-White category.

5. Values: A good person will hold true to the values that were taught to them by their parents. If a person is raised well (good breeding, haha) then the mindset will be towards the goal and not to regress back to negativity.

So, those are five things that you should be looking for in a partner. (or in my opinion, at least). Here is your mantra for today:

Good relationships start with positivity.

Love with your heart, not with your eyes.

Think with your brain, not with your mouth.